About TheSingleHeart.com
In January, 2007, the Lord laid it on my heart to start a monthly eNewsletter entitled,
The Single Heart. Its purpose was to deliver an encouraging and timely word to Christian
singles based on God’s Word and presented in a down-to-earth and relatable way.
Within two years, what started out as an email list of 99 grew to over 2500 subscribers.
I thoroughly enjoyed the email replies I received from countless singles around the world
either sharing their testimony, their personal struggles, or how the newsletter blessed
them in a major way. I began to post some of them on social media websites
and was surprised by the numerous comments and dialog which resulted from each post.
Folks shared their victories along with their innermost convictions and most of the
dialog was very emotionally healing in nature.
As a result, I longed for a place where I and other single Christian women could call
our online home where the newsletters are posted consistently along with comments
from other singles where we can all share our stories and insight, and be and STAY
encouraged as today’s single Christian women.
Hence, TheSingleHeart.com was born.
TheSingleHeart.com (aka Kimontheweb.com) consists of past and future The Single Heart
eNewsletters posted on this website and categorized by topic.
As you and I both know, as Christian singles, at any given moment the enemy tries to
fill our minds and hearts with feelings of loneliness, insecurity, impatience, sexual
temptations -- just to name a few.
The purpose of this website is, if at any given moment, single believer, you feel down
and out -- instead of giving in to a pity party, join the ongoing online praise party
found on TheSingleHeart.com instead!
Not only will I post the monthly newsletters in their entirety, I will also include
other articles, pose questions, mini-sermons, and points to ponder. Some blogs will
also include related gospel videos so you can get your praise on in between getting
encouraged by God’s Word.
Be sure and subscribe to receive the monthly newsletter on the home page of this site,
or subscribe via RSS to know exactly when this site has
been updated with more uplifting information.
Add this website as your favorite, check back often, and tell your other single
girlfriends about it as well.
It is my heart’s desire that TheSingleHeart.com will keep you encouraged, motivated and
inspired as you live victoriously and drama-free during this season of singleness
in your life.
Much love in Christ,
Kim Brooks
About Kim Brooks
Driven, Anointed, Refreshing, Passionate about Purpose – these are but a few words to
describe licensed minister, workshop presenter, songwriter, and Award-winning author, Kim
Brooks. Kim, a Detroit native, is an honors graduate of Word of Faith Bible Training
Center and is licensed by her pastor of 13 years, Bishop Keith A. Butler.
Upon graduating from Bible school, she pursued her calling and self-published her
first novel, He’s Fine…But is He Saved? which attained national distribution, sold several thousand copies, and eventually garnered her a two book deal with Kimani New Spirit, and international
inspirational imprint of Harlequin. It then went on to become a Black Expressions’
Bestseller and a popular phrase spoken amongst single, saved girlfiends who spot a
fine brotha.
Kim next released its much anticipated and highly acclaimed sequel, He’s Saved…But is
He For Real? which continues the love journeys of the three main characters and is about
love, betrayal, friendship, and forgiveness. Many reviewers have dubbed her sequel even
better than the first!
She also published her first non-fiction book entitled, The Little Black Survival Book
for Single Saints, which is a miniature yet powerful book that explains how to overcome
loneliness, impatience, sexual temptation, jealousy, lack of forgiveness, and insecurity
- all feelings which may haunt singles minds at any given moment but can be eradicated
through the Word of God and prayers noted in this awesome book.
As the founder and CEO of Driven Enterprises, LLC, and an English graduate of
Michigan State University, Kim has been a contributing columnist for Anointed Pages Magazine, Hope for Women Magazine, First Lady Magazine, and Breakthrough Magazine.
Kim also publishes a monthly eNewsletter entitled, The Single Heart, which currently
ministers to thousands online via TheSingleHeart.com
A 31-year-old-virgin who wasn’t raised in the church but has definitely been kept by God,
Kim Brooks has been featured in Gospel Today, and JET, and she has appeared as a guest
on The Word Network, Totally Christian Television, and Christian Television Network.
Her ministry and speaking platform of abstinence until marriage has been heard on
airwaves nationwide including Rhythm and Praise with Pastor Marvin Winans,
The Praise Party with Ace Alexander, Strong Inspirations with Deborah Smith Pollard,
and Rejoice Musical Soulfood.
Kim Brooks’ powerful message, which brings hope and healing to the nation, is that is
IS POSSIBLE to live an exciting, uncompromising, drama-free, purpose-driven,
Spirit-led victorious life in the perfect will of God!
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Kim’s Story (In her own words)
“A 32-Year Old Virgin? Are You For Real?”
Honestly, I never thought in a million years that I would be a 32-year-old virgin.
I had my first “boyfriend,” in kindergarten and shared my first kiss at age 10 in the
driveway behind my dad’s van. I remember days during grade school when my friends and
I huddled underneath desks during lunchtime to pick out the boys we thought
were cute. I’ve kept a diary since kindergarten and it seemed like every
school year I had a new crush. Then there was the infamous folded note almost
every girl longed to receive from their crush…you know the one, it reads -
“Do you like me?” and has the two boxes to be checked with either ‘yes’ or ‘no.’
Okay…so I may have been a little…um…”boy crazy”…
Even though I wasn’t raised in the church, and my parents never talked to me about sex,
I always had this ‘thing’ embedded in the back of my mind that I wouldn’t have sex with
someone unless I really loved them.
By the time I attended college I was actually mad that I hadn’t had any yet, because I
thought surely I would have fallen in love by now. There was this one guy I had strong
feelings for in high school, but he didn’t reciprocate at the time.
I got saved upon graduating from high school when some friends brought me to their
church’s gospel concert (hence my love for gospel music), but at the time I just viewed
my salvation as “fire insurance.” You know what I mean, I figured, “Well, I don’t want
to go to hell so I may as well get saved.”
I received Jesus as my personal Lord and Savior, and went right back to the club next
weekend.
A year later a strange thing happened.
My best friend invited me to her church home, Word of Faith, and the pastor preached a
message that stirred something in my soul. His preaching was so relevant, it actually
showed me how I could apply the Word of God to my every day life. After six months of
visiting during mid-week services, I eventually joined the church and began to grow
spiritually.
Honestly, I still clubbed at first, and I had actually met a cute guy, I’ll call him Maurice, at a club who came over my house one day while my mom was away.
Eventually Maurice and I started kissing and making out on the couch,
and next thing you know he’s trying to rationalize why he didn’t see nothing wrong with two
friends having sex.
I knew I wasn’t about to “go there” with him, and I even told him I wasn’t going to have
sex with him because of ’spiritual reasons.’ Now that I think about it today, my rationale
may have sounded silly at the time seeing as though his hands were all over me on the couch and here I am evoking God, but actually it was the spiritual food I had been receiving at
my new church home that was renewing my mind and causing me to somehow stand strong in my faith.
I eventually asked Maurice to get up off of me -- he did, took a
sip of red Kool Aid, and just looked at me.
I next asked him to leave, and he obliged.
Once he shut the door, I fell on my knees at the foot of the couch and began to cry
hysterically.
Even though Maurice and I didn’t go “all the way,” I still felt as if I
hurt my Heavenly Father in some way.
It was then, at age 20, that I made the decision before God to maintain my virginity
until marriage.
Has it been an easy ride? Hex no!
Since Maurice I’ve had other relationships, and have definitely been tempted.
There is this crazy myth out there that just because you have never had sex that you don’t
have the desire for something you never had.
That’s a lie from the pit of hell!
Sex is a good thing to be desired as it was invented by God, and it’s His way of consummating a marriage.
Sex is God’s creative and romantic way of bringing two married people closer than they’ll ever
be with one another according to Genesis 2:24.
It’s only been by the grace of God, because I know if it were up to me, I would have had sex
a long time ago!
But looking back I know that my experiences were God’s way of keeping me, whether from my experience in high school, or me complaining about not having fallen
in love by the time college rolled around -- I am thankful that I can say the first man
I ever truly loved with my whole heart, mind, body, soul and spirit has been my
Heavenly Father, God.
He’s the one who’s never left me, nor forsaken me.
He’s the one who listens to me, when there’s no one else around to hear what I have to say.
He’s the one who comforts me when I feel lonely, and let’s me know everything is going to be all right when I feel afraid.
I thank God for the grace of God, and for the cleansing blood of Jesus, because any woman
reading this, whether you have had experience sexually or not, can confess your sin before
God with a pure heart and God promises to wipe that sin away and make you, once again, white as snow, which means no virgin can claim to be any better than you, because as a believer you both stand before the Father, God, cleansed, healed, and whole (1 John 1:9, Isaiah 1:18).
So that’s my story.
God is Faithful, and it’s my heart’s desire to be an example to other
women that it is possible to be kept by God and still have a fun, exciting life as a
single Christian, and if you have had sex before you can commit, this day, to saving
yourself, from now on, and keep your goodies on lock until after you say, “I Do.”
Know that I love you, but God loves you more.
Much love in Christ,
Kim Brooks
